“Love, a word that comes and goes but do people really know what it means to really love somebody”
The famous lines of Kirk Franklin’s ‘love’ a song that makes me ponder and wonder if some people really know what the word ‘love’ means.
I had once told someone that what comes through your mind when someone says ‘I love you’ to you reflects in a way what you understand love to be.
A lot of people have drawn up fantasies in their minds about love and termed it ‘true love’ or ‘real love’. I’ll like to correct that; Love cannot be true or more real than itself, it is either love or it’s not.
So, before you take the first step into that relationship, do you both know what it means to really love somebody? Do you confuse infatuation or lust for love? Confidently answer those two questions else that intended relationship might form a negative opinion in your mind because you failed to adequately examine what was flowing through your mind.
So, what then is love?
According to Merriam-Webster’s English dictionary, ‘a feeling of strong or constant affection…’
This definition has two notable things ‘strong’ or ‘constant’ which signifies a never waning feeling. It’s an unselfish, loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.
As a religious African, I’ll draw an analogy from the account of Apostle John, God loved the world so much that he could not sit and watch man suffer. He gave up his only son as a propitiation for man’s wrongs – this was unselfishness expressed (withholding nothing), loyal (remaining true to the fact that man though imperfect can be made perfect) and benevolent concern (kind and caring interest in the affairs of man not for criticism or downgrading but a beneficial uplifting for man).
In our relationships, we need to give thought to those three qualities of love and do the needful
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